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Trying To Cope With A Severely Autistic Child

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Michele Sheffield wants to keep her severely autistic 20 year-old son Harley at home but he has become too big and violent for her to handle on her own. She fears for his safety if he was to go into an institution or group home. Read more about Harley Sheffield: Jacksonville mother feels the pain of caring for 20-year-old autistic son: http://jaxne.ws/1P3TKBl For family of autistic man, a day for letting go: http://jaxne.ws/1FAAzgO
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Jewel Haines (1 year ago)
Mam, I hate to be cruel, but, you can't keep living like this. My daughter was born with Cornelia De Lange Syndrome. She's got many traits of autism also. She is extremely violent towards herself and others, as well as destructive towards property. I got to the point where my husband and I could not control her. We placed her in a group home. She has been in a total of 10 group homes in 3 years. She is in a group home now that specializes in dealing with hard to place adults. She has good and bad days. She is almost 31 years old. We love her very much, but, could not live with the violence.
Nicole Hess (1 year ago)
Arran Warren (1 year ago)
God bless you!
I have an autistic brother he is 10 years old his actions are similar and I'm really worried about what happenes when me and my other siblings leave... Will he hurt my mother? he's already broken two smart tv's and we can't go anywhere and he's always making a mess I get really mad because I don't know what will happen in the future
Its giraffe (1 year ago)
muse (1 year ago)
Levi Strong (1 year ago)
I would kill myself.
Samuel Collazo (1 year ago)
I somehow found his screaming funny
Ace X (1 year ago)
Bro helllll no i would leave him at a gas station I feel bad for saying that nvm
MemesAreAmazing (1 year ago)
Fidget spinner
Jose C. (1 year ago)
Nah, that's for ADHD.
MemesAreAmazing (1 year ago)
ROBLOX fidget spinner = autism
Coolz (1 year ago)
The fidget spinner will make him nitmal
ROBLOX (1 year ago)
Fidget spinner what?
Minecraft YouTubers
Cujose back Hay (1 year ago)
I feel bad fir people like this you know they tend to always get made fun of
Averi Watkins (1 year ago)
I feel bad for this mother.
Katrina Bennett (1 year ago)
I just wanted to add my input. There are a lot of weird comments and thoughts about this video from the youtube community. I have 2 children with severe autism and this behavior from this young man is a display / example of what my 17 year old son and my 14 year old son can do. Firstly, the boys seems highly agitated and self hitting can actually come from either being hyposensitive and or simply watching a movie or Youtube where they saw someone get hit . Severely autistic kids also have something called echolalia, which, means they repeat over and over words. They may also have OCD and repeat actions over and over. So, with that in mind if you cannot calm your child and get them out into a different environment to break the repeating cycle in their heads. GIVE THEM A TRANQUILIZER. Your dr. will prescribe it. I was never for medication either, BUT once they wake up it is as if their system is reset and they are off that mindset. Yes they can and probably will go back to the ocd. BUT they will not be so upset and violent about whatever is bothering them in the moment. with the ocd. Imagine not being able to stop your brain from repeating the thing over and over all day, week or even month. Also, really try to find your son a place outside of the house he can go without hurting anyone. My one son I take out to a farm where my parents live and let him stay. He gets such a calm on him when there is no noise around and he can wonder about the land and have interactions with people who will interact with him. Autistic kids can want to be alone but they do not want to want to be alone. So, sometimes a calm environment and just people different people being somewhat close that they can watch makes them happy. Also, if you think food doesn't affect autistic kids you are definitely wrong. Ex: it may be the anticaking agent on the salt, or an orange, wheat dairy, etc. My son has intolerances...not allergies....Meaning his body acts psychotic if I give him certain foods. A single orange can make him tear my house down like the hulk. Whereas a cucumber or honeydew will have a neutralizing affect to his system and he gets all giggly and smiley. Sugar like brown sugar or white table sugar is an absolute nooooooooo, maple syrup and even honey. Test your kids out and write down what seems to bother them.
Baby berry (1 year ago)
Geviper (1 year ago)
Katrina Bennett Are you a heavy smoker or some shit.
Ricardo Andino (1 year ago)
I don't give a shit. I will laugh with this video even if i read your comment (thing that i won't do) xd :v
redbeard (1 year ago)
MMG 006 (1 year ago)
I feel really bad about this kid and I really do hope he gets this mental illness gone. I'm not sure how autism works but I pray to god that my children don't turn out like this...even though autism is really bad and not funny, I really feel bad for laughing a little bit.
Miles Latham (1 year ago)
Danny_Lloyd_ 10 Lol, typical response of a child who thinks he knows it all. Whatever bud, go on living in ignorance.
Danny Verdant (1 year ago)
Miles Latham like if u know anything better
ZachRULES1996 (1 year ago)
its true
Miles Latham (1 year ago)
Danny_Lloyd_ 10 Also " actual facts from a 15 year old with autism" sounds like the punchline to a bad joke
Miles Latham (1 year ago)
Danny_Lloyd_ 10 Easier said than done pal, medical science is more than "throw pills at it". And I don't think you understand these words: autism is a mental illness, diagnosis is when a doctor decides you fit the criteria for a disease/illness/condition/whatever. By definition you are mentally ill, not as severely as this guy but nevertheless. By definition most people are "mentally ill" if fitted for the criteria of common mental conditions like depression or anxiety. Seriously, I'm not trying to be a prick but if someone is telling you this, they're trying to spare your feelings and don't have your best interests at heart- what with sheltering and such, doesn't prepare a child properly for the real world
redbeard (1 year ago)
What other proof do you need that god is imaginary? What kind of god would do this to a person? And that doesn't even consider what it does to his parents & family, etc.
Aurora Borealis (1 year ago)
BigT 1418 still believe in fairy tales I see
Aurora Borealis (1 year ago)
**christian screeching intensifies**
redbeard (1 year ago)
+Jonah Smith Read what exactly? The Bible? Because I have. I'm sure I've read it more than you, what with the 12 years of Catholic schooling and thousands of hours of independent research, and all. But I'll humor you: Please direct me to this wondrous text which explains the errors in my thinking and results in all of this making some semblance of actual sense. I will happily read it.
Jonah Smith (1 year ago)
ephewe God doesn't control this world. Read up.
Seehroov Nosaj (1 year ago)
BigT 1418 The story of Adam and Eve is fairy tale bullshit. Have you ever seen a talking snake? Have you ever seen a human start out as a full grown adult instead of an infant?
Eric Bershad (1 year ago)
How does he do that all day? I don't think I want to do that all day.
Dannythug Thugz (1 year ago)
I feel so sorry for her and him
Sivad (1 year ago)
"God created us all in his image" Is this his image?
Benjamin Baines (1 year ago)
God has weird fetishes
Kermit The Frog (1 year ago)
MadeByMe he dosent make the earth perfect. Read up on your facts
Michael Pagano (1 year ago)
This video really makes me happy about my own life. But thinking of what the mother and the Autistic kid goes through is awful. I couldn't do this.
Nlight 1 (1 year ago)
Michael Pagano lol
Charlie French (1 year ago)
Poor poor lady
Nlight 1 (1 year ago)
Charlie French lol
Intense Par (1 year ago)
Shouldn't the title say, "Trying to Cope with a Child with Severe Autism?
DeepForestRex (1 year ago)
It's the same thing. We don't have to say "person with autism". There's nothing wrong with saying "autistic person" instead of "person with autism". There is no right or wrong way to say it.
weatherly (1 year ago)
Watching this video makes me really sad.
❤Ariana❤ (1 year ago)
My little sister is 8 years old and she has autistic I'm scared she might become like this she can't speak at all but she doesn't hit herself but she knows how to hit other people for fun and not what kind of autistic is she is it severe?I'm 11 yeas old and she's been going through a lot and I just wanna help:( I wish the love for the family that has autistic members and not ❤️
Raul (1 year ago)
Honestly this seem like an extreme case , and he seems distressed, i doubt it's just his disease. A mother that old and his son living alone , not the best enviroment even if he was completely healthy. Just be her sister and make the best out of it, i'm sure it'll go well. She's lucky to have you.
Mel B (1 year ago)
I have Aspergers high functioning autism. I don't think he is autistic the video says he is but I think he has demon posession. It would explain him hurting himself and being distructive. I will pray for that family.
Lmao I said assburgers instead of aspergers my bad
IndieKaylee (1 year ago)
i'm not even going to say it
destiny 2002 (1 year ago)
poor kid take care
Undying Vision (1 year ago)
It's really sad seeing someone like this. I'm severely autistic but on the high-end of the spectrum but this guy is low end.
iWasThe Battlefield (1 year ago)
There's more people complaining about the comments than there is people making fun of him
BigT 187 (1 year ago)
iWasThe Battlefield I know right
Samson Gabriel (1 year ago)
This young man needs some medication. :/
XtreemMetalMan (1 year ago)
you can put him on heavy drugs, ritalin, or some anaesthesia, keep him just conscious, he isn't owed anything else.
DeepForestRex (1 year ago)
There is no medication for severe autism. This is not ADHD
Peter Kotsiris (1 year ago)
Although he is severly autistic and aggressive, the mother is not handling her situation as well as she could be.
Peter Kotsiris (1 year ago)
My sister is exactly like this
Abdulrahman Alghamdi (1 year ago)
I don't understand how God see his creation being like this and not do anything to prevent it?!? It's heartbreaking to me and I don't even know him.
Luca Brandt (1 year ago)
Anthony Tipper spot on
Anthony Tipper (1 year ago)
Abdulrahman Alghamdi it’s because there is no god
GUMPY (1 year ago)
Why is he doing that?
Megan Eastwood (1 year ago)
Wow I can only imagin what this woman is going through. 6ft and over 200 lbs. He's probably hit her several times. Scary situation. I wouldnt blame you for getting him homed in a place better suited for his needs with psych meds.
Halon Poisoning (1 year ago)
Guys, stop making jokes out of this poor guy. This really is a serious concern and I feel so bad for his mom knowing that he may end up killing himself with his destructive behavior. :(
Halon Poisoning (1 year ago)
I'm a sis. And I'm just saying that everyone needs to stop taking this disorder as a joke. It is serious. Imagine being in the mom's position.
Darius Anderson (1 year ago)
Bruh, stop acting like a witted douche-bag
Halon Poisoning (1 year ago)
Anghad Sin What?
FBI ' (1 year ago)
Normie trying too get likes.
Luviie Lee (1 year ago)
I feel for her it takes a strong person to deal with this but I'm sure it's very hard to cope with . I wish nothing but the best for this family
Bōo - (1 year ago)
This is why I don't believe in God, to religious people look at this guy and tell me there's a God!
Darius Anderson (1 year ago)
Atheist don't like autistic people?
Malcolm platinum (1 year ago)
I'm crying I feel so bad
Lost in Sauce (1 year ago)
Aww this is heartbreaking. No one deserves this :(
TOM (1 year ago)
The worst comment section I ever encountered.
TOM kve seen worse and im sure theres comment sections at minimum 25 times worse
Shea Vaccaro (1 year ago)
This poor woman
FBI ' (1 year ago)
808Clutch (1 year ago)
I have Aspergers, and I'm glad I'm not *this* bad.
EmolgaGame YT (1 year ago)
I have aspergers, and have never been this glad to only have aspergers.
Mel B (1 year ago)
I have Aspergers too.
This poor guy he has medication for to calm down
Teslas Humor (1 year ago)
So sad :,( Dx
CaptainNicBlake (1 year ago)
People who say that autism is a "special gift from God" should watch this.
CaptainNicBlake (1 year ago)
That is true; I was just referring to the religious nuts who tell autism parents that autism is a "special gift from God."
Mel B (1 year ago)
Everyone on the spectrum is not like that.
Kawthar Ma'youf (1 year ago)
The video makes me cry while watching how autistic adult act like. I fear my child might be the same when grow up.
Curls (1 year ago)
It's interesting to see how the brain works. What part of him is still human?
Mel B (1 year ago)
I'm not sure of your alien talk but I'm going to go ahead and say stop making insulting comments.
shadrach (1 year ago)
I could not deal with that. Poor mother.
shadrach (1 year ago)
He needs an institution.
Lulu - (1 year ago)
It makes me mad when parents act as if it's all about them having to cope with a child. Actually it's damaging to a lot of autistic people to hear that they're a burden and, why not think about the child who is actually going through this? If only people were more understanding that not everybody is the same, it doesn't mean they are broken
Jonas Pedersen (1 year ago)
And you are right, the child should never have gone through this. #Abortion
Jonas Pedersen (1 year ago)
She did not say that all autistic children are a burden, but her own child was. She has every right to express her feelings and thoughts, and I doubt he'll get hurt.
Kelby Edmonson (1 year ago)
He needs to be placed in an institution so this poor lady can rest.
oldmate (1 year ago)
Poor bloke
tree lex (1 year ago)
If I was put in his situation put me down at the hospital, as harsh as it is for you to hear, that's not a life to live
HorribadRS (1 year ago)
Enza Denino is a strong, respectable woman
Brain Guyy (1 year ago)
Why does it say child? Hes an adult who is severly autistic
DililyPoof (1 year ago)
I feel so bad for the mom like I could not deal with having to take care of someone for the rest of my life.
Bevin Armstrong (1 year ago)
God bless you & your son. I'm so sorry this has happened to him.
Doodle. Daidyo (1 year ago)
I really respect the mom for her patience and understanding because I couldn't deal with this but you can see she really loves her kid
Stephany (1 year ago)
All these comments are so sad. People are so heartless..
Joel B (1 year ago)
I feel bad for her, sucks how she has to put up with him for the rest of her life...
Your Boy Adolf (1 year ago)
He was autistic and now he has brain damage XD
Oly Guchamoli (1 year ago)
Your Boy Adolf lmao
Katy m (1 year ago)
Wtf is wrong with all these people in the comments? Empathy is dead is seems
LCbabyxO (1 year ago)
This comment section is horrdenous. We wonder where humanity is gone.. maybe ask yourself where YOUR humanity has gone?
FATMAN HOOVY (1 year ago)
Its sad watching this.
Challlenger (1 year ago)
It really scares me to have a kid and it have autism. I wouldnt be able to deal with uncontrollable anger , destruction and probably 2x money of non autisitic.
Jonas Pedersen (1 year ago)
Midnight Blue Believing having children is selfish is definitely debatable. I see your point, and in many, many cases it is sadly nothing but true. But I understand if oneself just want to have children in their life, because then they are doing what we are here for. *Sure, earth is overpopulated. Not in a "there's no room for anyone" kind of way. (You could take all people on earth, and fit them all into one state in America). So, the problem is our mass production and consumption. I don't think adding another billion to our race will create a huge difference, we just need to change our ways of living. *Life as a human is no longer about survival, like as it was for our oldest ancestors. It is about enjoying our privileges that we created for ourselves, and sharing it with others. Of course, life is filled with bullshit like diseases, disabilities and just plain death. But that is also why it goes to show, that we need to enjoy our time. What I want to say, is that if a disabled person isn't enjoying life, or ANYONE for that matter, we should kill them. Quite frankly, this dude does not look like he enjoys life. EDIT: Obviously we can't just kill people cuz we assume they aren't enjoying life. XD And if they can answer for themselves, it's their choice.
Jonas Pedersen (1 year ago)
Melanie Barksdale Melanie, we are not judging people with autism, we are simply stating it's for the best for people with severe disabilities to be left out. Your case is not close to be a burden for the majority, or yourself for that matter. It's for their own good, because I strongly believe that they don't have a satisfied life.
Mel B (1 year ago)
I have Aspergers high functioning autism. Don't judge us because of one person's actions we aren't all like that.
Darius Anderson (1 year ago)
What about other disorders like down syndrome
a l (1 year ago)
If only. Autism can't be detected in utero. Hopefully they will be able to test for it at some point. Anyone who says they should not be aborted should leave their name and address for drop-off so they can deal with it. I'm with challenger. Never never never. Not wasting my entire families life on this. Not happening, ever.
percy. (1 year ago)
i feel sad now
Garry Vigneswaran (1 year ago)
I dont understand why people think this is a meme or a joke, people need to understand that these kid did nothing to deserve this and how hard it is for a parent too...just so disspointing what people make memes of
Coon Coon (1 year ago)
These comments are cancerous
Tarren - Leanne (1 year ago)
This is pathetic and some of your comments are disgusting, you are going at it for something he can't help - grow up!
Tami Salazar T-BONE (1 year ago)
God bless them
annise g (1 year ago)
i feel bad for her
Allie K (1 year ago)
God bless. But seriously he needs to be placed
TMG (1 year ago)
Everything in the room is broken except the tv and the PlayStation.
Ricot Saintfort (1 year ago)
ethan frager (1 year ago)
God. The comment section is so intolerant. Imagine being that guy or his mom.
OWEN DOES PRANKS ! (1 year ago)
I feel bad
John Moses Browning (1 year ago)
That must be exhausting
Lolbarbu1 (1 year ago)
This is so sad omg...
Hunter James (1 year ago)
Jesus please heal him.
Vinny Banks (1 year ago)
The problem isn't that he has autism it's that she isn't restraining him in any way, or even protecting him.
Alex Seravilo (1 year ago)
That's horrifying for the mom.
Paulette marie (1 year ago)
Literally the comments on here make me sick and honestly she is not treating him right...like first off she said that she is "controlling" him which is BS u have to put him in therapy cause seriously you cant just treat him like that...he needs therapy to help him he needs medication for him to control himself...my brother had autism its not severe but he did and does go to therapy (more than 1) and takes alot of medicine for what he has and when i say therapy I don't mean ur stereotypical therapist to tell u "how u feel" i mean speech and behavioral therapy which does help so why cant she do the same cause this kid can get help but u just don't give it to him...i swear do whats right and give him the help he needs not just making him watch TV and u screaming at him cause he can't behave...cause u know the reason why he cant behave is because of u not raising him with the help he needs
Len-Kun Kanashimi (1 year ago)
I feel sorry for that woman. She'll have to put up with that for the rest of her life.
passcal2108 (1 year ago)
I know that guy. Hes an admin on 4chan
Retro 80's (1 year ago)
Hunter Hicks (1 year ago)
"All life is precious"
Alex Drake (1 year ago)
Hunter Hicks, Great quote from Jean Vanier
Grumpy (1 year ago)
Does the mother not have any help with taking care of him? I can't even imagine what life is like for the both of them. I hate to say it, but if I had just had a kid and found out that it was severely autistic like that, I wouldn't be in the kid's life at all. I just would be able to handle it.
N M (1 year ago)
My son has very mild autism and is hard to live wih at times, i cant imagine living wih such severe autism. That poor lady. And how awful to be trapped in your body like that guy. Living hell for both.
I don't think this is a child
skeleguns 10,ooo,ooo (1 year ago)
I am not that autistic. Remember if you had a history of autism. THIS WOULD HAPPEN!
Taco Bell (1 year ago)
That women is in a living hell
Uncle Squiddz (1 year ago)
This is awful. I feel bad for her.
AverageUnicornDonut (1 year ago)
Y do people keep making fun of this kid. That makes me loose faith in humanity. He didn't choose to be autistic. Like if u agree
Jonas Pedersen (1 year ago)
Generic Username Yeah, that's totally what I said. Quote me, please. 👍 In fact, I did say people like YOU, didn't I? I must have, because by your logic, I did. Well then, off to Richtaoften with you to get gas - I mean take a shower.
Generic Username (1 year ago)
Jonas Pedersen, you would love Nazi Germany, and would make a great SS Officer. Since you feel the mentally disabled should be round up and killed.
AustiBlaze It (1 year ago)
Jonas Pedersen Smartest person in this comment thread
Jonas Pedersen (1 year ago)
Random Ghoul I am glad you think so.
Big Eared Bandit (1 year ago)
Jonas Pedersen Its fucked up but its true they should've killed him he's in a living hell
Mr. Popo (1 year ago)
I hope they come out with a type of procedure kn the brain to help people like these... if that doesn't happen soon...society will collapse or we could just drive him to a forest and leave him there...
Kamrin Jiskra (1 year ago)
This is so unbelievably saddening.. I wish less people made jokes about serious issues. You can say I'm "triggered" but I just always think of myself being in others positions. I'm also not saying his life isn't a blessing but it just isn't fair he has to deal with that constant pain and discomfort:(
Jane Mildred (1 year ago)
He needs help. Maybe be put in some kind of institution. I don't know how the mother handles it but she's strong. However, I see that she doesn't find any kind of comfort to maintaining his behavior and he doesn't seem to show some kind of improvement. Besides, at his size, he can potentially hurt someone.
It feels like he is way too energetic. MMJ therapy could possibly help him. Who knows, maybe it is all he needs in order to become normal.
Shaylyn Magnusson (1 year ago)
I feel bad for the mother, but it is good of her not to give up on her child no matter how hard it is to cope with.
DigitalBath (1 year ago)
I am incredibly ashamed at the comments on this video. That is the most patient woman on the planet, and I couldn't even imagine having this condition. Empathy and understanding are dead in this country. I hope nothing but the best for this family, and I hope the gang of twelve year olds on here grow up quick.
Jonas Pedersen (1 year ago)
DigitalBath K.
Wave (1 year ago)
This woman needs a year long vacation. I do not have the patience to handle someone like that for 10 minutes much as well 20 years. I think I'd have shot myself a long time ago.
Jack Ebner (1 year ago)
That poor mother
Kevin Trumbour (1 year ago)
Look at the wall in his bedroom... at that point I would’ve wanted him out of my life.. too destructive

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