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LIFE Before Death Cancer Pain
 
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DVD OUT NOW http://www.lifebeforedeath.com "Cancer Pain" Short Film 9 of 50 in the LIFE Before Death documentary series about the global crisis in untreated pain and the dramatic life changing effect palliative care services can deliver to patients and their families around the world. In this Short Film we discover that cancer is the most feared disease and the problem of cancer pain is an escalating problem worldwide. "Studies in a number of countries have shown when you ask people what disease worries them most if they thought they had it, cancer is streets ahead of anything else," reports Professor David Hill (Australia). Over 12 million people are likely to be diagnosed with cancer this year alone and 7 million will die of the disease. Cancer kills more people than AIDS and tuberculosis combined. "There are at least 5 million people who die of cancer each year with untreated pain," states Dr Kathleen Foley (USA). "We think this is an underestimate of pain in the world because there are 12 million survivors of cancer, people living with cancer, and we know about a third of them experience pain." Dr Eva Rossina Duarte Juarez (Guatemala) agrees that cancer is indeed painful. "In the situation of advanced illnesses, people need to be able to die in peace." Breast cancer patient Carmen (Australia) reflects that she doesn't fear death however she did fear the essential medications designed to treat her cancer pain. "I had a lot of pain on every level, whether it was physical or emotional." Dr Mark Boughey (Australia) of Caritas Christi Hospice in Melbourne explains, "When Carmen got here pain was the big issue... She had that really problematic neuropathic pain so you couldn't even touch her skin without her screaming and being distressed." "This problem is very much with us, it's a global problem, but also there are things we can do to bring the escalating problem of cancer under control," Professor David Hill. Carmen reflects that professional treatment of her pain brought back her sanity and quality of life. "I'm very blessed to have had this opportunity ... I've had really good care." Featuring Professor David Hill (Australia), Dr Kathleen Foley (USA), Dr Eva Rossina Duarte Juarez (Guatemala), Dr Mark Boughey (Australia), Carmen (Australia). LIFE Before Death will include 50 short films themed around pain control and end of life issues, releasing one a week for a year from May 2011. A feature film was released in early 2012 and is available at http://www.lifebeforedeath.com The project is presented by the Lien Foundation and produced by Moonshine Movies. It is also supported by the International Association for the Study of Pain, The Mayday Fund, the Union for International Cancer Control and The Institute for Palliative Medicine at San Diego Hospice International Programs. To Share Your Story visit http://www.TreatThePain.com
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Early Signs that Cancer is Growing in Your Body
 
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Don’t rely on routine tests alone to protect you from cancer. It’s just as important to listen to your body and notice anything that’s different, odd, or unexplainable. Here are some signs that are commonly overlooked: 1. Wheezing or shortness of breath One of the first signs many lung cancer patients remember noticing is the inability to catch their breath. 2. Chronic cough or chest pain Several types of cancer, including leukemia and lung tumors, can cause symptoms that mimic a bad cough or bronchitis. Some lung cancer patients report chest pain that extends up into the shoulder or down the arm. 3. Frequent fevers or infections These can be signs of leukemia, a cancer of the blood cells that starts in the bone marrow. Leukemia causes the marrow to produce abnormal white blood cells, sapping your body’s infection-fighting capabilities. 4. Difficulty swallowing Trouble swallowing is most commonly associated with esophageal or throat cancer, and is sometimes one of the first signs of lung cancer, too. 5. Swollen lymph nodes or lumps on the neck, underarm, or groin Enlarged lymph nodes indicate changes in the lymphatic system, which can be a sign of cancer. 6. Excessive bruising or bleeding that doesn’t stop This symptom usually suggests something abnormal happening with the platelets and red blood cells, which can be a sign of leukemia. Over time, leukemia cells crowd out red blood cells and platelets, impairing your blood’s ability to carry oxygen and clot. 7. Weakness and fatigue Generalized fatigue and weakness is a symptom of so many different kinds of cancer that you’ll need to look at it in combination with other symptoms. But any time you feel exhausted without explanation and it doesn’t respond to getting more sleep, talk to your doctor. 8. Bloating or abdominal weight gain Women diagnosed with ovarian cancer overwhelmingly report unexplained abdominal bloating that came on fairly suddenly and continued on and off over a long period of time. 9. Feeling full and unable to eat This is another tip-off to ovarian cancer; women say they have no appetite and can’t eat, even when they haven’t eaten for some time. 10. Pelvic or abdominal pain Pain and cramping in the pelvis and abdomen can go hand in hand with the bloating that often signals ovarian cancer. Leukemia can also cause abdominal pain resulting from an enlarged spleen. 11. Rectal bleeding or blood in stool This is a common result of diagnosing colorectal cancer. Blood in the toilet alone is reason to call your doctor and schedule a colonoscopy. 12. Unexplained weight loss Weight loss is an early sign of colon and other digestive cancers; it’s also a sign of cancer that’s spread to the liver, affecting your appetite and the ability of your body to rid itself of wastes. 13. Upset stomach or stomachache Stomach cramps or frequent upset stomachs may indicate colorectal cancer. 14. A red, sore, or swollen breast These symptoms can indicate inflammatory breast cancer. Call your doctor about any unexplained changes to your breasts. 15. Nipple changes One of the most common changes women remember noticing before being diagnosed with breast cancer is a nipple that began to appear flattened, inverted, or turned sideways. 16. Unusually heavy or painful periods or bleeding between periods Many women report this as the tip-off to endometrial or uterine cancer. Ask for a transvaginal ultrasound if you suspect something more than routine heavy periods. 17. Swelling of facial features Some patients with lung cancer report noticing puffiness, swelling, or redness in the face. Small cell lung tumors commonly block blood vessels in the chest, preventing blood from flowing freely from your head and face. 18. A sore or skin lump that doesn’t heal, becomes crusty, or bleeds easily Familiarize yourself with the different types of skin cancer —melanoma, basal cell carcinoma, and squamous cell carcinoma — and be vigilant about checking skin all over your body for odd-looking growths or spots.
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4 Effective Home Remedies For ASCITES TREATMENT
 
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HOW TO TREAT ASCITES NATURALLY? LEARN causes, symptoms and home made treatment of ASCITES. Ascites refers to build up of fluid in the abdominal cavity. It can indicate liver disease, congestive heart disease, kidney failure or cancers. Most commonly liver cirrhosis is attributed to cause ascites. Increased bold pressure in the liver is known to cause this condition. It is caused due to a difference in pressure between the circulation (high pressure) and abdominal cavity (low pressure). Decrease in albumin levels also contribute to this. Causes of Ascites: 1. Salt and water retention 2. Congestive heart failure and kidney failure which cause generalized water retention. 3. Alcohol abuse 4. Hepatitis B or C also may cause ascites. Increased pressure in the liver could also be caused due to an obstruction of the portal artery internally by a blood clot or externally by a tumor. Pancreatic ascites is caused due to prolonged alcohol abuse. Ascites can also be caused due to cancers and are called as malignant ascites. These are caused due to cancers in the organs present in the abdominal cavity, like colon cancer, stomach cancer, pancreatic cancer, ovarian cancer. Ascites Treatment: Home remedies can be extremely helpful in treating the causes and symptoms of liver/abdominal Ascites. Remedy 1: Soak a handful of fenugreek seeds overnight. Next morning, mix the seeds and water gently and strain the liquid with a muslin cloth or strainer. Drink the liquid to keep yourself healthy. Remedy 2: Dilute 30 ml of bitter gourd root juice with water and consume the liquid at least thrice a day for rapid relief. Remedy 3: Take a handful of chick peas. Soak them overnight in water. Strain the liquid early in the morning and drink it to get relief from ascites. Remedy 4: Consumption of fresh garlic juice daily for at least two to three weeks. It helps to reduce the pain and swelling in the abdomen. Hope you feel better soon! For more videos on Natural Home Remedies, subscribe to https://www.youtube.com/StylecrazeTV Source - http://www.stylecraze.com/articles/effective-home-remedies-to-treat-ascites/ Other Natural Home Remedies Treatments You May Be Interested In: How To Get Rid Of Indigestion - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJX0X05j4yI How To Relieve From Excessive Stomach Gas and Bloating - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eBqcIZPicrI How To Cure Constipation Naturally - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCTFlOzGsSk How To Treat Acidity Naturally - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ed9UcbYO05g How To Cure Upset Stomach & Pain - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9PjVMv0Og4
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The Power and Promise of Cancer Research: Presented at ASCO Annual Meeting 2018
 
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On June 2, 2018, National Cancer Institute (NCI) Director Norman E. Sharpless, M.D. presented at the 2018 American Society of Clinical Oncology (ASCO) Annual Meeting in Chicago, Illinois regarding the power and promise of cancer research. He discussed his four key focus areas which are Basic Science, Workforce, Big Data and Clinical Trials. #ASCO18 https://www.cancer.gov/about-nci/leadership/director/presentations/sharpless-asco-2018
Pregnancy - physiology
 
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Yelawolf - Till It’s Gone
 
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iTunes: http://smarturl.it/TillItsgone Sign up for updates: http://smarturl.it/Yelawolf.News Music video by Yelawolf performing Till It’s Gone. (C) 2014 Interscope Records Best of Yelawolf: https://goo.gl/vy7NZQ Subscribe here: https://goo.gl/ynkVDL
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TRACO 2016: Lymphoma and Ovarian cancer
 
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TRACO 2016: Lymphoma and Ovarian cancer Air date: Monday, September 19, 2016, 4:00:00 PM Category: TRACO Runtime: 01:47:21 Description: Lymphoma and Ovarian cancer For more information go to http://ccr.cancer.gov/trainee-resources-courses-workshops-traco Author: Kieron M. Dunleavy, M.D., NIH and Christina M. Annunziata, M.D., Ph.D., NIH Permanent link: https://videocast.nih.gov/launch.asp?19869
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Treating & Preventing Urinary Tract Infections
 
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Dr. Natasha Withers discusses the symptoms of a urinary tract infection and how to treat it.To view over 15,000 other how-to, DIY, and advice videos on any topic, visit http://www.monkeysee.com/
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Direct Connection
 
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Direct Connection with your host Jeff Salkin.
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Johns Hopkins inHealth: On the Road to Precision Medicine
 
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Johns Hopkins inHealth kicks off #HopkinsOnTheRoad, a health care leader series where experts discuss the importance of #PrecisionMedicine. Join the conversation as leading experts share ideas on how to improve the way we personalize health care.
Yelawolf - Daddy's Lambo
 
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Sign up for updates: http://smarturl.it/Yelawolf.News Music video by Yelawolf performing Daddy's Lambo. (C) 2011 DGC Records Best of Yelawolf: https://goo.gl/vy7NZQ Subscribe here: https://goo.gl/ynkVDL
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Question Period: Steel and aluminum tariffs, Kinder Morgan pipeline and bonuses — June 5, 2018
 
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Follow along as opposition parties question the Trudeau government in the House of Commons. Today the government faced questions related to the Trans Mountain pipeline plan and steel and aluminum tariffs. »»» Subscribe to CBC News to watch more videos: http://bit.ly/1RreYWS Connect with CBC News Online: For breaking news, video, audio and in-depth coverage: http://bit.ly/1Z0m6iX Find CBC News on Facebook: http://bit.ly/1WjG36m Follow CBC News on Twitter: http://bit.ly/1sA5P9H For breaking news on Twitter: http://bit.ly/1WjDyks Follow CBC News on Instagram: http://bit.ly/1Z0iE7O Download the CBC News app for iOS: http://apple.co/25mpsUz Download the CBC News app for Android: http://bit.ly/1XxuozZ »»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»» For more than 75 years, CBC News has been the source Canadians turn to, to keep them informed about their communities, their country and their world. Through regional and national programming on multiple platforms, including CBC Television, CBC News Network, CBC Radio, CBCNews.ca, mobile and on-demand, CBC News and its internationally recognized team of award-winning journalists deliver the breaking stories, the issues, the analyses and the personalities that matter to Canadians
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J. Michael Bishop (UCSF) Part 3: The cancer genome and therapeutics
 
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http://www.ibiology.org/ibioseminars/cancer-medicine/j-michael-bishop-part-3.html Bishop begins his lecture with a historical review of the experiments that resulted in the realization that cancer has a genetic basis. He explains that mutations can cause normal cellular genes known as proto-oncogenes to become oncogenes, analogous to jammed accelerators causing uncontrolled cell division. Alternatively, mutations in tumor suppressor genes are analogous to a failed brake system. An accumulation of both types of mutation leads to the development of cancer. In part 2 of his lecture, Bishop describes how the sequencing of cancer genomes will advance the study and management of cancer on various fronts, including the discovery of causes, the improvement of early detection, the prediction of outcome and the development of new therapeutics. He stresses the promise of designing therapeutics that can be targeted to those patients most likely to benefit from these drugs. Bishop expands on this theme in part 3 where he describes experiments to find drugs that exploit vulnerabilities created by cancer genes, utilizing a genetic strategy known as "synthetic lethality."
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TRACO 2016: Breast cancer and Cancer health disparities
 
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TRACO 2016: Breast cancer and Cancer health disparities Air date: Monday, October 24, 2016, 4:00:00 PM Category: TRACO Runtime: 02:04:07 Description: Breast cancer and Cancer health disparities For more information go to http://ccr.cancer.gov/trainee-resources-courses-workshops-traco Author: Farah Zia, MD, NCI, NIH and Brid M. Ryan, PhD, NCI, NIH Permanent link: https://videocast.nih.gov/launch.asp?19945
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Suspense: Dead Ernest / Last Letter of Doctor Bronson / The Great Horrell
 
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On the second presentation of July 22, 1940, Forecast offered a mystery/horror show titled Suspense. With the co-operation of his producer, Walter Wanger, Alfred Hitchcock received the honor of directing his first radio show for the American public. The condition agreed upon for Hitchcock's appearance was that CBS make a pitch to the listening audience about his and Wanger's latest film, Foreign Correspondent. To add flavor to the deal, Wanger threw in Edmund Gwenn and Herbert Marshall as part of the package. All three men (including Hitch) would be seen in the upcoming film, which was due for a theatrical release the next month. Both Marshall and Hitchcock decided on the same story to bring to the airwaves, which happened to be a favorite of both of them: Marie Belloc Lowndes' "The Lodger." Alfred Hitchcock had filmed this story for Gainsborough in 1926, and since then it had remained as one of his favorites. Herbert Marshall portrayed the mysterious lodger, and co-starring with him were Edmund Gwenn and character actress Lurene Tuttle as the rooming-house keepers who start to suspect that their new boarder might be the notorious Jack-the-Ripper. [Gwenn was actually repeating the role taken in the 1926 film by his brother, Arthur Chesney. And Tuttle would work again with Hitchcock nearly 20 years later, playing Mrs. Al Chambers, the sheriff's wife, in Psycho.] Character actor Joseph Kearns also had a small part in the drama, and Wilbur Hatch, head musician for CBS Radio at the time, composed and conducted the music specially for the program. Adapting the script to radio was not a great technical challenge for Hitchcock, and he cleverly decided to hold back the ending of the story from the listening audience in order to keep them in suspense themselves. This way, if the audience's curiosity got the better of them, they would write in to the network to find out whether the mysterious lodger was in fact Jack the Ripper. For the next few weeks, hundreds of letters came in from faithful listeners asking how the story ended. Actually a few wrote threats claiming that it was "indecent" and "immoral" to present such a production without giving the solution. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suspense_%28radio_drama%29
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Episode 167 Chris Ratter - Psychic Surgeon & Author of "Mediumship Within" on We Don't Die
 
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Spiritual healer Chris Ratte performs hands off, non-invasive psychic surgery and trance healing. He works with a powerful team of surgeons, doctors and healers from the spirit realms, using his ‘healing hands’ to channel their healing energy. This energy is then used to address the ailments and dis-eases which are present within our bodies, minds, emotions and spirits. Chris holds weekly surgeries near his home in Scotland, and he also holds regular monthly surgeries across the UK, Ireland and Europe. It should be noted that Chris is not a medical doctor and his healing services should be used in conjunction with the advice of your own doctor. In his excellent book, "Mediumship Within" Chris Ratter combines practical advice with personal experience to inform and guide the reader on their development of mediumship and healing. His book is available on Amazon at: http://amzn.to/2s5elRG His website is: http://www.chrisratterpsychicsurgeon.com/ *Enjoying We Don't Die Radio episodes? Consider donating to help operating costs of the show (I keep the show commercial-free on purpose) please visit: https://www.paypal.me/SandraChamplain **PLEASE JOIN US IN SCOTTSDALE, ARIZONA AT THE AFTERLIFE SYMPOSIUM SEPT 15-17, 2017: http://www.afterlifestudies.org/ (Please come meet me in the lobby on the night of the September 14, 2017 – I’d love to meet you!) -Sandra JOIN THE INSIDER’S CLUB to receive a free chapter of We Don’t Die – A Skeptic’s Discovery of Life After Death (also available at: http://amzn.to/2fCQPqs ) and the healing audio “How to Survive Grief” at http://wedontdieradio.com/
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Suspense: The Twist / The Visitor / The Blue Hour
 
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The program's heyday was in the early 1950s, when radio actor, producer and director Elliott Lewis took over (still during the Wilcox/Autolite run). Here the material reached new levels of sophistication. The writing was taut, and the casting, which had always been a strong point of the series (featuring such film stars as Orson Welles, Joseph Cotten, Henry Fonda, Humphrey Bogart, Judy Garland, Ronald Colman, Marlene Dietrich, Eve McVeagh, Lena Horne, and Cary Grant), took an unexpected turn when Lewis expanded the repertory to include many of radio's famous drama and comedy stars — often playing against type — such as Jack Benny. Jim and Marian Jordan of Fibber McGee and Molly were heard in the episode, "Backseat Driver," which originally aired February 3, 1949. The highest production values enhanced Suspense, and many of the shows retain their power to grip and entertain. At the time he took over Suspense, Lewis was familiar to radio fans for playing Frankie Remley, the wastrel guitar-playing sidekick to Phil Harris in The Phil Harris-Alice Faye Show. On the May 10, 1951 Suspense, Lewis reversed the roles with "Death on My Hands": A bandleader (Harris) is horrified when an autograph-seeking fan accidentally shoots herself and dies in his hotel room, and a vocalist (Faye) tries to help him as the townfolk call for vigilante justice against him. With the rise of television and the departures of Lewis and Autolite, subsequent producers (Antony Ellis, William N. Robson and others) struggled to maintain the series despite shrinking budgets, the availability of fewer name actors, and listenership decline. To save money, the program frequently used scripts first broadcast by another noteworthy CBS anthology, Escape. In addition to these tales of exotic adventure, Suspense expanded its repertoire to include more science fiction and supernatural content. By the end of its run, the series was remaking scripts from the long-canceled program The Mysterious Traveler. A time travel tale like Robert Arthur's "The Man Who Went Back to Save Lincoln" or a thriller about a death ray-wielding mad scientist would alternate with more run-of-the-mill crime dramas. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suspense_%28radio_drama%29
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Plaquettes de frein : Les conseils de nos garagistes / Top Entretien #1 (avec Denis Brogniart)
 
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Un système de freinage bien entretenu joue un rôle primordial dans le confort de conduite et la sécurité routière. Pour limiter les risques d'accident, il convient donc d'entretenir son véhicule et de le faire réviser régulièrement par des garagistes professionnels. Plaquettes de frein, tambours, étriers, disques de freins, etc. Plusieurs appendices mécaniques participent à un freinage efficace. Au moindre signe de dysfonctionnement, les experts Top Garage seront à même d'examiner votre voiture et de trouver rapidement les causes du problème. Dans le cadre d'un entretien auto de qualité, nos garagistes recommandent une révision des plaquettes de frein tous les 15 000 kilomètres environ. Selon le type de véhicule et votre style de conduite, elles devront être changées au bout de 40 000 à 60 000 kilomètres. La révision des freins est une étape essentielle : en garantissant l'efficacité du freinage, elle contribue en effet grandement à votre propre sécurité et à celle des autres passagers. Des freins en bon état vous permettront en outre de bénéficier d'un contrôle optimal de votre véhicule. Si vous constatez une augmentation des distances de freinage, des vibrations inhabituelles, un sifflement aigu ou que vous éprouvez des difficultés à maintenir votre véhicule dans une trajectoire rectiligne au moment du freinage, prenez rapidement contact avec l'un des garagistes Top Garage. Certains véhicules nécessitent un déverrouillage électrique des étriers. Il est donc indispensable de faire appel à un spécialiste qualifié et équipé d'outils professionnels. Les garagistes adhérents du réseau Top Garage sont formés, équipés et spécialistes du freinage automobile. Sachez qu'en en cas d'incident, l'autoréparation constitue un motif de non-remboursement pour votre assureur. Pour trouver un garage auto à proximité de chez vous, c'est ici : www.top-garage.fr Si vous souhaitez en savoir plus sur le freinage automobile, rendez-vous sur notre page dédiée : https://www.top-garage.fr/service/plaquettes/
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Participant Engagement and Health Equity Workshop - July 1-2, 2015 - Day 1
 
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On July 1-2, the Precision Medicine Initiative (PMI) Working Group of the Advisory Committee to the NIH Director (ACD) held a public workshop on participant engagement and health equity as they relate to the proposed PMI national research cohort. The workshop focused on the design of an inclusive cohort, building and sustaining public trust, direct-from-participant data provision, and effective and active participant engagement characteristics of a national research cohort of one million or more volunteers. The workshop built on the big science questions developed during the April 28–29 workshop at the NIH, digital health data perspectives shared during the May 28-29 workshop, and information on the strategies to address community engagement and health disparities in a large national research cohort gathered from stakeholders through a request for information. The workshop took place on the National Institutes of Health campus in Bethesda, Maryland, and was videocast. A full list of workshops being convened by the ACD PMI Working Group is available on the Events page of the NIH PMI website. Agenda and time codes: Welcome and PMI overview - Dr. Francis Collins - 00:01 Meeting overview - Ms. Bray Patrick-Lake - 29:30 Envisioning a Cohort that Is Participant-Driven, Inclusive, and Diverse - Dr. Tony Coles and Ms. Vernal Branch - 36:50 Public Perspectives about a PMI Cohort - Dr. Kathy Hudson - 1:08:05 Inclusion and Engagement Goals Related to Health Equity - Dr. Shiriki Kumanyika - 1:55:30 Challenges in Recruiting and Retaining Disadvantaged and Underrepresented Populations and Best Practices for Overcoming Them - Dr. Esteban Gonzalez Burchard - 2:54:35 Establishing Collaborative and Inclusive Governance in a Large Study - Dr. Spero Manson - 4:06:49 What Would a Direct-from-Participant Cohort Model Look Like? - Ms. Kathy Giusti - 5:34:15 Participant Perspectives on Data Sharing and Data Use - Dr. Sachin Kheterpal - 6:34:35 Wrap-up - Ms. Bray Patrick-Lake - 7:32:45
twitch.tv/monotonetim 2017-07-06 [22:06]
 
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Auburn Coach Wife Kristi Malzahn Agrees with Match & eHarmony: Men are Jerks
 
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My advice is this: Settle! That's right. Don't worry about passion or intense connection. Don't nix a guy based on his annoying habit of yelling "Bravo!" in movie theaters. Overlook his halitosis or abysmal sense of aesthetics. Because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year. (It's hard to maintain that level of zing when the conversation morphs into discussions about who's changing the diapers or balancing the checkbook.) Obviously, I wasn't always an advocate of settling. In fact, it took not settling to make me realize that settling is the better option, and even though settling is a rampant phenomenon, talking about it in a positive light makes people profoundly uncomfortable. Whenever I make the case for settling, people look at me with creased brows of disapproval or frowns of disappointment, the way a child might look at an older sibling who just informed her that Jerry's Kids aren't going to walk, even if you send them money. It's not only politically incorrect to get behind settling, it's downright un-American. Our culture tells us to keep our eyes on the prize (while our mothers, who know better, tell us not to be so picky), and the theme of holding out for true love (whatever that is—look at the divorce rate) permeates our collective mentality. Even situation comedies, starting in the 1970s with The Mary Tyler Moore Show and going all the way to Friends, feature endearing single women in the dating trenches, and there's supposed to be something romantic and even heroic about their search for true love. Of course, the crucial difference is that, whereas the earlier series begins after Mary has been jilted by her fiancé, the more modern-day Friends opens as Rachel Green leaves her nice-guy orthodontist fiancé at the altar simply because she isn't feeling it. But either way, in episode after episode, as both women continue to be unlucky in love, settling starts to look pretty darn appealing. Mary is supposed to be contentedly independent and fulfilled by her newsroom family, but in fact her life seems lonely. Are we to assume that at the end of the series, Mary, by then in her late 30s, found her soul mate after the lights in the newsroom went out and her work family was disbanded? If her experience was anything like mine or that of my single friends, it's unlikely. And while Rachel and her supposed soul mate, Ross, finally get together (for the umpteenth time) in the finale of Friends, do we feel confident that she'll be happier with Ross than she would have been had she settled down with Barry, the orthodontist, 10 years earlier? She and Ross have passion but have never had long-term stability, and the fireworks she experiences with him but not with Barry might actually turn out to be a liability, given how many times their relationship has already gone up in flames. It's equally questionable whether Sex and the City's Carrie Bradshaw, who cheated on her kindhearted and generous boyfriend, Aidan, only to end up with the more exciting but self-absorbed Mr. Big, will be better off in the framework of marriage and family. (Some time after the breakup, when Carrie ran into Aidan on the street, he was carrying his infant in a Baby Björn. Can anyone imagine Mr. Big walking around with a Björn?)
Views: 156179 Shari Wing